Lonely & Sad

There was a time when my family was still young. Even though I was married with two children, I remember a time that was the loneliest time of my life. My husband may have lived in the same house, but we couldn’t have been farther away from each other. I never believed him to be anything but a kind man. Unfortunately, neither of us had the skills to reach across the divide of lost respect and passion that had created the gulf that now kept us apart.

I could site the wrongs, harsh words & miss-steps that I felt fed my insecurities, self-doubt, & loneliness. But, I’ve lived in those dark places and don’t ever wish to visit that place again. Our union was crushed under that darkness.

A Second Chance

I’ve had years to review the past. I’ve left all but the lessons I learned behind as I create a future of my choosing filled with joy and light. The man who’s ring I now wear, graces my soul with his calm acceptance of my creative spirit. He gives me things I never knew I needed like colorful love notes and more importantly supporting my efforts and ideas. He celebrates me! And because of this, I celebrate us.

I don’t write this to boast my good fortune. I want to share the simple fact that although in a healthy relationship, we get what we give, in an unhealthy one we can be left wanting…needing and wondering if we are worthy of the things we are missing.

You Are Worthy!

I put up a wall to protect myself. It didn’t get built in one day. It was over the years that each stone was placed. At some point, I realized that the very wall I had created to protect me had stopped allowing any possibility of connecting. If there was any chance to reconnect I had to let it down.  I came out to ‘fix’ whatever was causing problems. Only I couldn’t fix it. One person can’t fix a relationship. It takes two. And I found some people don’t know how to ‘relate’ to others in a healthy way. They don’t teach this skill in school and certainly many parents aren’t good examples. Sadly, some are the worst examples.

Because of my circumstances, I devoted myself to finding the answers I wish I had when I was so lonely & first building that wall. In my Confidence & Self-Esteem program, I’ve created an entire workshop focusing just on relationships. They are of great importance to how we feel about ourselves and the world around us.

The ABSOLUTE BEST advice I can give, is to celebrate you, learn to value your unique gifts and accomplishments, set healthy boundaries, develop healthy relationships with healthy people, remember joy comes FROM you and not to you, & to know you ARE worthy of your dreams.

With Passion – W