LOOKING FOR LOVE & FRIENDSHIP
There are many who are looking for someone. Some are looking for love and others a friend. We all suffer from loneliness at times during our life. In order to find that person you need to know who you are looking for. For those of you who this is what you wish, the following may help.
VALUES/TRAITS
ONE: Look at all the people you know and find those who share the same values that you desire. It’s not that you’re specifically interested in that particular person but are just defining what traits you want in a friend or love. Your boss may be confident, your sister may be creative, & your butcher may have a great sense of humor. When you see a trait in another person that is attractive, write it down. This is going to be your wish list.
WHERE ARE THEY?
TWO: Find out what the people you know who have these traits do for work, what they do for fun, if they worship, where they worship, etc. This is will give you more of an idea of where to find them. And don’t hesitate to tell these people that you are looking for someone special.
COMPATIBILITY
THREE: You’re going to want to find people who like to do what you like to do; not everything but at least some things. Write down everything that brings you joy. Do you like to be outside, play sports, go to art galleries, cook, listen to music? What type of music? Get as specific as you want. If you like classical you won’t want to go to ACDC cover band concerts.
FIELD TRIP
FOUR: Now, go and do what you love. You’re not going to find these people in your house. If you love concerts in the park, go. Yes, alone if it is safe or with a friend or group of friends. The idea is to be and interact with people who like what you like.
RESEARCH & DEVELOPMENT
FIVE: Time for R & D. Time to spend time with the potentials. This is what dating is for. And it works the same way with friends. Spend time together and see if you connect.
You may not have a strong connection on your first outing. Building trust and getting comfortable with other’s take time. Just like great inventors creating something new, there will be failures. Don’t let this deter you. It takes as long as it takes. And if you feel like you need or want help, you can hire a life coach. Once you find your friend and/or love, it will all be worth it.
